Balance

At work, I am a superstar. I can answer the phone while typing an invoice while answering a question of the person standing behind me while reading a blog entry and tweeting. And if it’s the right time of day, I’ll be eating my lunch while doing all of the above.

But at home? I am so NOT a superstar. In fact, if it wasn’t for my super fanstastic cell phone, I don’t think I’d ever get to read blogs or check my e-mail on an average day at home. To be honest, it’s been 10 months and I still haven’t figured out how to participate in life while taking care of Mason. Yes, I know I can stick him in his jumperoo and vacuum the floor, but I just used up all of his jumperoo patience by surfing the internet while he bounced. And now the floor remains filthy. The dishes pile up, the bathtub looks like something out of a horror movie. And me? I’m too busy chasing the baby to get stuff done. And when I’m not chasing him? I just want a freaking break.

I know I could clean during nap time, but then what happens to my me time? I try to get stuff done in the kitchen while he feeds himself his cereal and mum mums, but then right after I feel like a superstar for getting stuff done, I feel bad because “Oh my god, he’s been strapped into his high chair for over an hour!”

Yesterday, I got the baby laundry washed (not folded or put away, mind you), the floors swept and mopped, a wall wiped down, and the house vacuumed. I felt like a SUPERSTAR. But I also cried when he wouldn’t take a nap and spent half the day hating myself. Bad day? Yes. Superstar? Definitely not. You think after 10 months of practice I’d have this figured out….


14 thoughts on “Balance

  1. Little BGCG Post author

    Your not the only one trust me! It will get easier! And you are a superstar! You do so much on a daily basis. I think a common misconception is that we have to do it ALL and we don’t!

  2. Colleen Post author

    Don’t feel too bad; I don’t think any of us have it figured out. I find not sleeping enough helps, but that’s hardly a solution, lol.

  3. Sara Post author

    Our house is a wreck all the time. I don’t want to spend precious time doing dishes instead of playing. And me time? This Saturday was the first time I’ve had any in longer than I can remember and I stayed up until 3am to get it.

  4. Allie Post author

    I still haven’t figured it out after two kids. I finally just gave up trying to do it all. My house is a mess 99% of the time but I have more time for kids and (selfishly) more time for me.

  5. BalancingMama (Julie) Post author

    Awww, don’t be too hard on yourself! Mommyhood is a really hard job. I am/was a career superstar, and it was such a shock to me mediocre at best in my Mommying. You are deifnitely not alone. Almost 3 yrs later, I still fail many times a week! You will improve on some things and learn to let other things go. But you’ll constantly need to adjust. Don’t forget to take a moment just for you now & then.

  6. Cole Post author

    If you figure it out, please let Mommy know – she’s been struggling for 17 months!

    We are in awe of all that you do – getting Mason to his appointments, battling with insurance, going to work AND your house isn’t falling down around you? Win.

  7. Randalin Post author

    I can totally relate to this post. Since my son was a tiny newborn everyone told me that it just gets easier and easier every day. Really?! If that’s the truth then I’m obviously doing something wrong….

  8. LeeAnn Post author

    Girl I am right there with you! I honestly don’t see how SAHMs do it…how they get anything done all day. Bryce is sooooo needy these days, and I literally get NOTHING done while he is awake. And like you said…you could do chores while Mason sleeps, but then when do you get any me time? You are a SUPERSTAR. You do everything in the world for Mason and you’re an awesome mom. Don’t you forget that. So what if you don’t get the chores done…a messy house is a happy house! 🙂

  9. Meg Herald Post author

    My first daughter is almost 4 and I still don’t have it figured out. I would hiring a cleaning lady in a second, but hubby objects. I think as mommy’s we just struggle with finding the balance. All mom’s are superwomen in my opinion!

  10. Apple Post author

    I feel exactly the same way everyday! It is starting to get to me. My hubby does a lot of the chores, but I feel guilty b/c I am home all day while he is at work. It’s so hard to do everything around the house and still have me time. I just don’t know how some people do it!

  11. Joanna Post author

    Yes! With working on top of everything else, it’s just too much!!! I just hired a house cleaning company. The first clean is tomorrow. I’ve been spending the past 2 weekends trying to straighten things up, and I’m still not done. It’s going to be a long night. Even without that, though – Laundry, dishes, cooking – that’s all never-ending. Trying to do it all on the weekends leaves me drained. Trying to clean on top of that was just ridiculous. One person can’t possibly do all that (I can’t, at least). There’s just not enough time after work or on the weekends. Plus, after I get home from work, I’m usually tired already.

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